The Importance of Overcoming Approach Anxiety
Whenever I am asked what the most important aspect of becoming successful with women is, I always have the same answer. Overcoming approach anxiety is the centerpiece of any success you will ever have with women. I know this because approach anxiety was always the one thing that kept me from having real success with women.
There are many other important factors to having success with women, like building real confidence in yourself, developing a fun personality, being a real man, etc…. However, you obviously can’t get anywhere with a woman if you never approach her.
If you’ve relied on friends and family to fix you up with women, or you have only met women at work, school, church, etc… then you have probably already realized why this is so important.
The importance of overcoming approach anxiety is very apparent to me these days. I have personally found out that if you work on this one aspect of meeting women, all of the other stuff will fall into place – provided that you continue to learn about how women really work.
When I say it is important to overcome approach anxiety, I don’t mean that it is important to just learn to get over your fear of rejection and walk up to women that you want to meet. What I really mean is that you need to learn how to do that and still be yourself during the process. You need to learn how to be comfortable in your own skin.
Women are very intuitive… they pick up on this kind of stuff fairly easily. Even if you say and do all the right things but you don’t believe that you really deserve to be there talking to the attractive woman that you have approached, she will see right through you. She will know that you aren’t truly confident and comfortable in your own skin.
Earlier I said that overcoming approach anxiety is even more important than building confidence, and it is… in a sense that you can’t get anywhere with a woman that you never meet. However, confidence is so crucial for men who are trying to create attraction with women, that it must be present in every aspect of dating and seduction.
Confidence is the main ingredient that allows you to get past your approach anxiety with women. Women truly NEED men to be confident in themselves in order for attraction to start building.
Women want to be submissive. They want to be dominated, and they do not respect wussy men. That is why it is so important to not only overcome approach anxiety, but learn to completely dominate a woman right from the start.
Part of the solution is just getting out there and approaching women until your are no longer afraid of the rejection that is inevitable from time to time. The other part is learning how the female psyche works and learning how to use this knowledge to get what you want from women.
When we are able to not only approach women, but affirm our masculinity by arguing, making jokes at their expense, using neg hits, walking away when they bore us, etc… only then can we say that we have truly overcome our approach anxiety. For an excellent education on how the female psyche works, check out Double Your Dating.
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