Approaching Women Successfully – Three Tips
Do you shake in your boots when you’re around a woman that you’re attracted to? Does your blood pressure shoot through the roof and do you suffer from paralysis of the brain?
Perhaps under relaxed circumstances with your friends, you’re never at loss for words. But when meeting a woman that attracts you, you can’t even put two words together. Your behavior in these circumstances is to either make a pathetic attempt or not even try.
If this sounds familiar to you, don’t get too worked up about it. Most men in similar circumstances behave similarly at the sight of an attractive woman. The intensity of this response is different from one person to the next.
Those who seem to be truly gifted have lots of experience at this. However, meeting and attracting women is nothing more than a skill. Some suggestions to help you out:
1.) You need to appear self assured and relaxed. An easy smile is mandatory as well as behaving in a manner that seems natural. You should have good posture which means that you must keep your back erect when walking and standing.
Refrain from taking quick little steps when you walk. When walking, try to do it with the ease of an athlete. Be sure that you speak clearly and loud enough for her to hear you.
If you want to appear relaxed you should be relaxed and tranquil on the inside. If your pulse and your mind is racing in high gear, you will seem nervous. In such a state you’ll make mistakes such as not really hearing what she is saying.
Anxiousness has a way of making us do things that make us feel foolish.
2.) Steer clear of the cliches that Hollywood uses in its movies and avoid pick up lines. Doing this will transform you from the person you truly are into a complete joke. The usual compliments about her appearance should not be made.
To break the ice, try making an observation about something in your surroundings. Perhaps there is something on her person that may clue you in on one of her interests.
Ask a related question about this and listen carefully to what she says. The content of her answers will give the information you need to keep the conversation going. When she mentions something that you’re familiar with, you can contribute your own experiences.
It’s important to understand that what you say is less important than how you say it. It’s essential to project confidence and a feeling of warmth..
3.) Doing all of the above may seem a bit overwhelming. Remember that this is a skill and will require effort and time to master. Therefore you will learn this in small incremental steps.
You should practice the above suggestions throughout your day whenever opportunity presents. It doesn’t matter if you’re waiting in a line, or riding in an elevator. Whatever the circumstances, start conversing with the lady next to you.
Don’t think or fret about it, just start talking. After doing this for several weeks you will see a big improvement.
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